Jan 28 2009
Stop Lying.
Why is it that most of us women are so damned catty? Why are we so often irritated by women who “have everything”? Why is it that when faced by a fellow female with a flawless face, bangin’ body, hot hairstyle, sun-kissed skin, faultless fashion sense, estimable education and a vast vocabulary it’s often cause for any “regular” girl to become poised to attack? And my God if you add fluency in multiple languages and a successful career with a twist of modest integrity, chances are you will have a full-fledged jealous rage brimming right under the surface. (Sometimes not quite under the surface.)
While I can relate to the almost instinct-like negative response, e.g., “wish I would have been born into HER family”, “why didn’t God give me genes like those”, “I bet she’s a stuck-up bleep”, these days I find that I have a very different reaction when first becoming acquainted with such a woman. Instead of “hating”, I admire. I am almost drawn to them in the sense that I want to know their secrets! I want to learn about how they view the world, how they view life. I want to know what is it that helps them to set themselves apart. To put it bluntly, I want to know how I can be like that too. Because who says I cannot be? Moreover, who says you cannot be? Do you not desire to be in great health, have a killer wardrobe and haircut all while perhaps having a high-paying job that you love? Because who ever told you that you cannot, lied.
Wait, stop the presses! You mean no one other than yourself told you those things?
Well quit lying and get a grip, because darling you can have it all.
You may find that it would serve you well to stop “hating” on those women who seem to have all their shit together, and start taking note of just how possible it is for you to achieve every similar goal, and more.
I wish I could just scream this from the rooftops, but for now my blog will have to do: You can do, have, or be anything the girl next to you can do, have, or be. No matter who that girl is, what she is wearing, what man is holding open the door for whatever car she drives. You can have it all. Don’t ever allow anything to lead you to believe different.
Lester! Ok So I tried commenting on your last little blog thing but it would not let me. It was really frustrating. And yes I do read these. You have great things to say! Anyways, To comment on your last one,I am so happy for you that you are in a place that you really love. I am one of those people that wake up every morning wishing I was back home in San Antonio. Don’t et me wrong, I absolutely love my friends here and Adam is here. But it’s just not home. My parents are there, my old friends are there. That’s one place that I know when I wake up I am happy. Happy to be home and in San Antonio. Lesli, you are so blessed to feel home and like you are in the place you know you want to be. One day I will be there. It may be a while but I will get there. Meanwhile I have got to love what I have and be greatful I am in school and have a place to live. It’s just hard to see that when you get back and you immediately feel the burden of stress. It’s no good. Now for this blog, my roomate and I were just talking about how the “world” views beautiful. The tall skinny and flawless. It’s not possible. Because of how media and Hollyword portrays these people, women like me and you who are perfectly beautiful go around and complain to one another that we are fat and wish that we could have a body like their and skin like theirs and even hair like theirs. For me, it’s hair color. haha. Anyways, its ridiculous. We are truley beautiful. We don;t need Hollywood to tell us that. Oy. It gets frustrating after a while. Anywas, I also wanted to apologize for not calling and hanging out with you over the break. I am a horrible friend. I just got so caught up with the wedding and I was sooo stressed and hated it. I thought of calling you so many times but I was a mess or I was out of town. I hope sometime soon I will able to see you and hang out with you! Again, I am very sorry! I love you!!