Whimsical Conversation

I think my best friend Lauren and I have had one fight, ever. I can count the number of times I have been slightly upset with her on one hand. Before her friendship, I had never realized how plagued I had been with friends that only loved parts of me, friends that were there only for when things were on the up and up. As soon as I made one mistake or life started getting a little rocky, or both, those friends were no where to be found. Conversely I’ve had friends who were there for me when I was down, offering sage wisdom, Bible verses, and a shoulder to cry on when I was learning from my stupid mistakes the hard way, and yet these same friends who were rocks of support would literally sneer and fume with jealousy when things in my life started turning around. A new job, a new car, or taking an amazing vacation would be the end of us! I would start to feel spoiled, undeserving. Those types had preferred words for me: “selfish” and “fake”, or my personal favorite: “bad Christian”.

The one unchanging variable in either equation was that those friends never loved all of me, just parts. Lauren has loved me, and I her, wholly and without falter. When there was distance between us, we understood that the other was going through personal struggle. When I get crazy, she tells me so, but with love in her voice that at the same time says “it is okay.” When she flakes out on me, or I her (but mostly her, haha!), we do not get angry and hastily decide to write the other off. We simply make plans for another day. Because just like in life, our friendship is not a one-shot-or-nothing type of deal. We forgive and look past mistakes, see the good, and just love.

What a concept, right?! Becoming Lauren’s friend has taught me the greatest lesson and hardest lesson to learn about friendship.

It all goes back to my freshly adopted philosophy I have been trying so very hard to consistently implement on a daily basis, which is to choose love and find the positive in every single moment, every single situation.

And I might be on to something, or I may just be incredibly lucky, because Lauren Taylor Wallace is truly the best friend a girl could ever have.

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If you’re experiencing similar difficulties I had mentioned with friends, or anyone really, here’s a video that always makes me smile:

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